Others

Life is better when I think more of others than myself. After a very little time, I become quite bored with myself. What is so fascinating about me? What is there left to discover about me? The more my self demands attention, the more I don't like what I see.

When focus shifts to the promotion of the well being of another, my greater self emerges. As I get older, I find it much more exciting and rewarding to cheer on others. I love to watch the sixth grade girls basketball team that I coach improve and shine. I love to watch the church staff shine, while pursuing their gifts and passions.

I love to watch, Michelle, my wife encourage middle school students in her class at church. I love it when I have been able to, in some small way, encourage someone to try something new. I love to help people who cannot do much for me, except to return their gratitude.

So, if you are feeling neglected or mistreated today, shift your focus from self to others. No one really wants to attend your pity party. Help another, cheer a friend, serve a stranger. Find someone who is down and lift them up. When energy is given to others, my self is the greatest beneficiary. In helping others, I have helped myself even more.

Peace,

Stan